Our expert says:
Like kick-boxing, it's probably alright if one only with equals, who are similarly skilled and also want to joust. Done to people less able to defend themselves, it's bullying.
What you describe sounds lore like a way you have found to dominate others and make you feel like a triumphant winner, by puting them down.
What youre descibing is not quite athletic, but certainly competitive. And the fierceness with which you pursue it may arise out of a level at which you feel somehow inferior / not one of the guys / maybe someone who was teased and made to feel inadequate who is not The Worm Turned ?
Revive that sense of fair play that was so active when you were younger.
As for the |verbal karate" being "just for fun", remember my old Law of communication - if you arfe the only one laughing, it wasn't funny. And if you're the only one who thought it was fun, it wasn't about fun.
And sometimes, one may grow to feel satisfied to be hated, when you don't feel you're likely to be liked.
Counselling could help you to find more fruitful ways to use your undoubted skills ; don't even dream of taking up counselling as a 2nd career until you have undergone it yourself, and from someone intellectually capable of handling you.
The difference between what you describe and counselling, is like the difference betwen cage fighting and brain surgery,
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