Our expert says:
Why did they move in with you rather than getting their own places, separately or together ? They're old enough to do so. Why is your husband now struggling financially, if he had no problems before ? Are the boys costing more than they payn ? IF so, tell them their rent must go up to meet costs, or they can find their own place. No point in allowing them to eat you out of house and home. If its the general financial situation that's causing the problems, then still they should contribute more --- if they were staying at a hotel and the costs went up to the hotel, their room rate would go up --- the hotel wouldn't go bankrupt just to suit their convenience.
I don't undertand your husband's atitude. If the boys stay with you and everything is provided for them, --- WHAT bills do they also have to pay ? And drink and entertainment bills don't count as an excuse.
No way they shoud use your vehicles without paying extra for that. And they must pay in full for any damages they cause --- otherwise why would they even need to drive safely. Of course they should share the chores round the house, just as they would have to if they were living non their own. The amount they're paing is ridiculously low --- they'd find it hard to find a hotel room for less than R 500 a night, let alone a month,.
You're being sensible, not selfish, and he is spoiling them ridiculously. Why does he feel so guilty and responsible for this pair of irrecp[onsible adults ?
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