Our expert says:
Tap away, Garf, though I can't guarantee there's much wisdom left !
Just think of the major difficulties and crises you have surmounted over the past few years - and this time you'll manage again, even if it's not entirely clear yet just how.
Good idea to see another psychologist - dare I suggest you seek one doing CBT ?
Self-esteem could well be the central issue, and commonly helps to cause as well as being caused by, abusive relatonships.
Is it hereditary ? Not via genes, but it can be encouraged by the way some parents treat their children. Even if this is no what is in their minds, convincing you are are not worthy, and never good enough can be subtly but lastingly damaging. Its not that they dislike you, but they don't affirm and encourage you enough, perhaps.
No doubt you have nver deserved the lousy treatment you have received in relatonships - but most abusers are brilliant at convincing you that this is so.
CBT is the way to go, to identify and revise these habits of thinking so negatively about yourself.
Sorry, must dash now - on the day the forecast insisted would be dry and sunny till midnight, there's the Mother of all Electrical Storms approaching rapidly.
Let us know how it goes.
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