Our expert says:
Its usually best where, as you describe, a close relationship grows out of a friendship. OK, so your relatives tried to help her when she first arived there - but if this is a good job, surely she can afford to, and should, by now have moved out into her own place ? Your assessment fo the options makes good sense.
These are options you may need to discuss with her, urgently, and this is complicated by the distance between you. Can't she re-visit Joburg so you can discuss this properly ?
I agree fully with Almost's suggestions ; not entirely with the commebnts. We must not assume your gf is blameless, as she sounds like she could be rather high-maintenance and fussy.
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