Our expert says:
DOn't get married until all of this is sorted out. You REALLY need to see a therapist, counsellor, to help you sort out what sound like very troubling and mixed up ideas about love, sex, and child-bearing - maybe relating in part to some earlier life experiences of your own, or to things you may have heard or mis-heard.
I know of successful, lasting and loving mariages in which sex did not play a large part, by MUTUAL choice or cirsumstance. But it is very ominous for a lasting relationship when someone starts by being determined not to ever have sex, and fears sex and procreation, for whatever reason.
As Maria says, if there were valid reasons for you to avoid pregnancy ( such as serious health problems ) you could be sterilized - it need not prevent you from enjoying sex.
Nobody is saying that mariage is entirely about sex - but it also is not 100 % NOT about sex, and a marriage based on a refusal to even consider sexual activity, is an odd relationship.
In many years of experience, I have never come across anyone with such a fixed and absolute determination to avoid sex and child-bearing which had simply arisen for natural reasons - it is uncommon, and has, in my experience so far, always been based on chilhood experiences of molestation or similar highly negative experiences.
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