I’ m in my 30s she’ s in her late 20s and been dating for a year.
I’ m feeling anxious at times and ill say why or if im wrong id like that to be pointed out.
I feel like my gf is at times manipulating me. I don’ t see her everyday but do every weekend as we don’ t stay together. I stay alone and she with her family but in different towns.
Ok, so on a certain weekend id have some work to do at my parents house as they need my help on some things, I would tell her what im going to do and she would not like it and make me feel guilty about going to my family by saying I don’ t want to spend time with her and iv repeatedly asked her to come with me. She has been with me to my family but I can sense she doesn’ t like going to my family. Sometimes when I do go she will say, well im going to make other plans for me then for the weekend (isn’ t that childish and immature?)
Almost every weekend im there at her family and they like to party and drink and I don’ t complain but if I want to go visit my family or friends then its an issue with her. I would rather love it if she would rather support and help me, instead she breaks me down. At times she will say my family and friends are weird or f-up.
She criticizes my music hates it when im watching sports or any movie and if I like a certain movie she will almost always criticize me or the movie even my job, and says the place I stay is a dumb ext she apologizes later but still tends to throw a chirp here and then. I wont even say how jealous she is, to the extreme and always accuses me with any women iv contact with. Is she abusive cause im beginning to question my own insanity.
She has embarrassed me before in front of her friends, I felt so humiliated. We where at one of her friends, I knew no one there, she sat down turned her back on me socialized with her friends and ignored me the whole night. Eventually I wanted to go home cause it was getting late, she simply said go if you want to go, I left her there and felt so embarrassed and angry. The next morning she pleaded and begged so I thought to give it another go. But to my surprise she did it again but without the ignoring part just said leave, I don’ t need or want you anymore. Still together but im getting red flags and not sure if im right or wrong by her actions.