Our expert says:
I understand your concerns, though presumably it's as easy for him to hit you married or unmarried, if you still live together. And if you're paying for everything, this is even better for him than a marriage. Where is the advantage to you and your child, in this arangement ? Discuss this with a lawyer and the magistrate's court --- you may be able to get a court order forbidding him from approaching you and requiring him to leave your home --- and trying to protect you against any potential violence on his part.
I'm sure your daughter has no reason to hate the nice guy, but she may be very disappointed and angry if you alloowed her to believe that he would live with you and everything would be happy, and now she sees this as not happening. Maybe Nice Guy felt you'd never get rid of Dead Beat Dad and moved on. Wouldn't you be better off without the dead beat anyway ? Whether or not THIS nice guy came back, you'd at least be open to meeting other nice guys, later on
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