advertisement
Question
Posted by: Charl | 2010/01/21

Is BJ persoonlik of nie?

Gee bietjie raad ouens, ander dag het ek en my vrou gesels oor seks ens en sy noem toe dat vir n vrou is seks nie so intiem nie maar wanneer n vrou n man n BJ gee is dit " personal"  Sy se dis hoekom prostetiete nie soen of vry nie. Wat n vrou met haar mond doen is persoonlik en intiem en met die res van haar lyf is dit net seks. Nou worry ek dat sy dalk al rondgeslaap het en dit probeer goed praat om nie sleg te voel daar oor nie OF steek daar waarheid in haar storie. Hoe voel die ander vroue hieroor?

Not what you were looking for? Try searching again, or ask your own question
Our expert says:
Expert ImageSexologist

Apologies for the delay in responding, and Charl, apologies but I cannot answer adequately in Afrikaans, so I will have to respond in English.

I have read the responses from others and regret that they have taken such a negative tone. My understanding of what you are saying is that your wife says that a BJ is personal (and therefore not easily done) and that penetrative sex is less intimate... Please don't read anything into this as other respondents have suggested - it must be clarified with her and her alone. It may be related to the fact that the effort required in oral sex is more, it is something which requires active participation and she cannot 'switch off' during oral sex. This is not the case with penetration as she can perform with little effort if she is tired etc. This does not mean that she slept around necessarily. Another possibility is that she could have distanced herself from her genitals (as many women do) and so she might not feel as connected/active when it comes to 'seks' (penetration) as she would have to during oral sex (BJ). So check what she means by 'personal' and 'intimate' and make sure you really understand what SHE means if it is still worrying you.

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

7
Our users say:
Posted by: Donnie | 2010/01/25

Gaga. So jy was ook al gesteek deur n paar manne, bliksem. Dis moes seker lekker gewees dit. Nou se my: as jy jou man se voel sien of as hy jou doen, dink jy aan tye waar jy beter gesien het of dink jy na die tyd of tydens dat jy was al beter gesteek as wat jou man jou steek.

Reply to Donnie
Posted by: Donnie | 2010/01/25

Gaga. So jy was ook al gesteek deur n paar manne, bliksem. Dis moes seker lekker gewees dit. Nou se my: as jy jou man se voel sien of as hy jou doen, dink jy aan tye waar jy beter gesien het of dink jy na die tyd of tydens dat jy was al beter gesteek as wat jou man jou steek.

Reply to Donnie
Posted by: Sexologist | 2010/01/25

Apologies for the delay in responding, and Charl, apologies but I cannot answer adequately in Afrikaans, so I will have to respond in English.

I have read the responses from others and regret that they have taken such a negative tone. My understanding of what you are saying is that your wife says that a BJ is personal (and therefore not easily done) and that penetrative sex is less intimate... Please don't read anything into this as other respondents have suggested - it must be clarified with her and her alone. It may be related to the fact that the effort required in oral sex is more, it is something which requires active participation and she cannot 'switch off' during oral sex. This is not the case with penetration as she can perform with little effort if she is tired etc. This does not mean that she slept around necessarily. Another possibility is that she could have distanced herself from her genitals (as many women do) and so she might not feel as connected/active when it comes to 'seks' (penetration) as she would have to during oral sex (BJ). So check what she means by 'personal' and 'intimate' and make sure you really understand what SHE means if it is still worrying you.

Reply to Sexologist
Posted by: Lady Gaga | 2010/01/24

Weet jy dit maak nie saak saam hoeveel mans jou vrou geslaap het nie, kom ek verseker jou as sy net saam jou al geslaap het gaan sy wonder oor ander size toties,,, As sy saam baie mans geslaap het het sy seker ale sizes gehad,,,,,,

As ek moet warry met hoeveel meisies my man geslaap het gaan ek vrek, my man is 18jaar ouer as ek, ek gaan nou nie se hoeveel mans ek al deur is nie, maar my man het al vir my gese dit maak nie saak nie, die experiance was daar.

' n bj is lekker om te gee, maar ons vrouens wil ook ontvang

Reply to Lady Gaga
Posted by: Donnie | 2010/01/21

Hi Charl, ek staam saam met TC. Sy het al seker n ander ou se voel gesuig. Sy wil net asof sy dit nooit gedoen dit nie of nie ken van die storie nie. Ek vra jou wat, het sy geweet wat om te doen of moet jy haar begelei dit.

Reply to Donnie
Posted by: Donnie | 2010/01/21

Hi Charl, ek staam saam met TC. Sy het al seker n ander ou se voel gesuig. Sy wil net asof sy dit nooit gedoen dit nie of nie ken van die storie nie. Ek vra jou wat, het sy geweet wat om te doen of moet jy haar begelei dit.

Reply to Donnie
Posted by: Top cat | 2010/01/21

Jou vrou praat k#k, ek weet van baie girls wat eerder ' n bj gee as sex te hê  met ' n man. " n BJ is glad nie so persoonlik as wat jou vrou voorgee nie. Sy wil jou dalk net laat special voel en jou onder die indruk bring dat sy nog net jou penis in haar mond gehad het.

Reply to Top cat

Have your say

Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly.
Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly.
advertisement