Our expert says:
You're confusing the extremely accurate advice I gave you " introvert/extravert relationships CAN / MAY work" with something I very carefully id not say, because it would be really foolish to say it, that such relationships ALWAYS work. Of course they don't. No particular type of relationship infallibly works.
You don't seem to be describing a couple ( you and your bf ) who are compatible, and it doesn't sound as though he is particularly interested in trying to be compatible. If he's in his 40's, he's probably set in his ways and would find it really difficult to change his self-centred habits, even if he wanted to.
What you describe is actually NOT a small and petty thing - and its about a lot more than just his insistance on incessant socializing with a small group of family and friends. And its not about extraversion and intraversion. It's about him not wanting to take your feelings and wishes seriously, and not wanting to change his social habits at all. Marriage would be a really bad idea unless things change significantly. And that would require that he recognize that there is a problem needing to change, and agreeing to participate sincerely in couples counselling
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