Posted by: adult | 2009-07-10

interfering mom...!!!!

uhm I' m wondering, is it legal for the mother of a 26-yr-old to contact her daughter' s dr or boss and try to prise information about her daughter from the boss/dr? and is it legal for that boss to use personal, sensitive information garnered from the mother, against his employee? (this information is about a mental illness that' s not influencing the employee' s work performance at the moment.)
Up to what point does the end justify the means?
The mother is saying she just wants the best for her child etc etc and will do ANYTHING to get her child to receive help for this illness...the " child"  WAS coping fine with it up until this she' s severely depressed (even suicidal) and angry because her future at this job is now uncertain (the boss is understandably feeling unsure about the employees capabilities NO MATTER the high quality of her current work!!!)

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At 26 a person is legally an adult, and a parent has no legal right to sneak around for privileged information about them. Information someone shares with their doctor should be kept strictly confidential except in some rate and special circumstances. And a boss must keep to the usual rules and laws regarding how workers can be treated ( the Dept of Labour should be able to advise here ), and that does not include snitching information from a worker's mother and using it against that worker. If a mental or any other illness exiss but is not affecting the person's work performance, it is none of the boss's business. And if one has a job, and develops ANY illness which might reduce your performance, these are not grounds for dismissal or problems, fbut the employer should ehlp the person to get whatever treatment they might beed.
Maybe some advice from a labour lawyer would be useful. And if you do have some illness, even if you were managing fine until now, why not get more expert advice and treatment or your own benefit ? Don't let the fact that your mum may have used under-hand mwethods to try to force you towards treatment, prevent you from getting proper treatment which you deserve and need anyway

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