Posted by: howling | 2009-08-08


My wife and I have not been married for too long and when we have sex, I need to slip a towl under her to bar my semen to spil onto the bedding.Is this normal?

We battle to have sex, as she complaints that I hurt her - I generoulsy use lube, with no benefit, with the result that we seldom have sex, as I dont want to cause her pain.

Can you help pleaes?

Thank you.

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During intercourse the increased vaginal lubrication and secretion together with the increased ejaculatory volume on orgasm can lead to soiling the bedding from the secretions . This would be considered normal and therefore is not a problem unless there is an excessive amount which might indicate some other cause .
the pain experienced by your partner should be investigated to assess whether it is a physical or psychological cause . Both causes will have to treated to ensure comfort in your sexual lives It is also possible that some sexual information for the both of you would be beneficial.

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Posted by: Condom Man | 2009-08-10

To answer your 1st quest. Yes it is normal, once U' ve come inside her the fluid has nowhere else 2 go. Only the tiny sperm in the fluid swim up into + through the cervix while the rest of the ejaculatory fluid has nowhere else to go except out through her vagina again. Your 2nd quest. I take it that U r both inexperienced with sex so take it easy + do a lot of fingering first. Use 1 finger with plenty of lube then try 2 fingers. Her vagina needs 2 get used 2 being penetrated. U guys could even buy a vibrator + penetrate with that until she gets used 2 it. Remember that enough foreplay is vital 2 get her aroused properly b4 U try 2 penetrate her + PLENTLY of lube at first.

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