Our expert says:
Well, it's a step forward if he can admit and face this fact, and if the pair of you can talk about it. Men and women often feel very bad about the issues raised by infertility. And we tend either to want to blame ourselves, or to blame someone else, when its only extremely rarely anyone's fault at all.
Its understandable, though not reasonable, for him to feel like this. Manly is what a guy does, not what his biology does.
It'd be well worth him seeing a psychologist about this, someone who can help him deal both with these issues, but also assess whether there is an underlying depression. Sad life events can cause depression ; depression can cause one to ruminate about sad life events, and get stuck, spinning one's wheels.
Discus what he'd prefer - men would often feel more comfortable discussing such matters with a male counsellor. If there is a depression, treatment of that, by CBT style counselling and/or medication, could make a major difference for the better for both of you
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