Our expert says:
You seem to be describing a situation which has existed throughout the 16 years of marriage - is this so ? As you know, love and sex can be related but definitely not necessarily so. There is much sex without love, and some love without sex.
Are you Depressed, I wonder, or, rather, sad and frustrated. Depression is an illness, with characteristic symptoms ; sadness often needs to be dealt with by attending to its causes.
Is there any possibility of persuading your husband to join you in marriage counselling, to see if any of the problem is remediable ? It may not be that sexlessness is absolutely inevitable within your marriage, with appropriate help
Apart from the frustrations of waiting, what are you expecting when your friend has finished his exams, etc ? Is it really likely that you will divorce your husband and that the other guy will become your full-time partner ?
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