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Posted by: Tina | 2011-03-20

I like him but he is really, REALLY big!

I won’ t be shy, I’ ve been around the block more than a few times and never have I come across anything like this. I met this totally great guy last year. He was friendly and we got talking. We’ ve been dating for the last 9 months or so now. But when things began to heat up last month I took him back to my place for a bit of fun. Scream. He was huge, I mean super huge. Not as thick as my wrist but close and long, at least 9-10 inches. I was so scared of him right then. Couldn't manage to pleasure him orally, 2 condoms I had, both broke as I put them on him. I eventually got the courage and tried straddling him. It hurt, it really hurt. I even started to cry. He was a nice guy and didn’ t pressure me or anything. He pleasured me manually and orally. He can also give the best foot massage ever. I was so ashamed that all I gave him was just a tit -|- .

We’ ve tried a few more times since then. Managed to fit him in a little bit, but nowhere near enough to possibly satisfy I think. He hasn’ t said anything. He seems happy just getting me off with his face and hands. I’ m still tight and none of my previous partners were anything over 6-7 inches. I’ ve done anal before but I''m not even going to try just yet. I’ ve brought some large toys to try and loosen myself up but I think I’ m just naturally tight. He’ s a great person, kind and caring. Good with kids from what I’ ve seen. But I just don’ t think I can satisfy him. I cannot even make him come most the time we are together either. I like him lots. What should I do? What can I do?

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When you are petit (like you say you are) anything looks really big. Perhaps you must first find the correct way to use a condom. I do not think you know how BIG that can go (or buy a better brand)! Just take it slowly, SLOWLY with lots of lubrication. If it still does not work, phone SASHA helpline (0860 100 262) for a referral list for practitioners in your area. Make an appointment and take your partner with you. Both of you can then discuss this and find a pleasing way forward. Deidre - SASHA

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Our users say:
Posted by: Alexxx | 2011-03-30

i am huge myself and have a similar problem, but poor quality condoms will break, because a condom can fit over a grown mans head without breaking.

you should invest in KY, or some good lube, thats what i use if i have this problem.

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Posted by: XXX | 2011-03-22

All you can do is make sure you are very well lubricated and that he is gentle.Believe me when you get used to his size you won''t want anything less.

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Posted by: ABC | 2011-03-20

You can give birth so there really isn''t such a thing as too big. I promise you a baby''s head is bigger than this guy''s penis. You just need alot more foreplay!

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Posted by: Andy | 2011-03-20

What would the ideal length and breadth be for you?

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Posted by: sexologist | 2011-03-20

When you are petit (like you say you are) anything looks really big. Perhaps you must first find the correct way to use a condom. I do not think you know how BIG that can go (or buy a better brand)! Just take it slowly, SLOWLY with lots of lubrication. If it still does not work, phone SASHA helpline (0860 100 262) for a referral list for practitioners in your area. Make an appointment and take your partner with you. Both of you can then discuss this and find a pleasing way forward. Deidre - SASHA

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