Our expert says:
Counselling could really help- - to learn better ways of handling conflict, as there are ways to be assertive ( standing up for yourself ) without being confrontational.
Communicationally, you sound like the guy painting the kitchen floor, who painted all around him in different directions, then found he had painted himself into a corner, surrounded by wet paint, and with nowhere to go. Similarly, by declaring that so many people are on your list of "people I won't talk to " it is YOUR freedom you are curtailing, not theirs.
In the recent example you quote, talking to ANYONE in the course of your business, is not about opening yourself to injury, or expecting to be deeply hurt, or compromising some deep and holy principle. It's work. And it's not about whether or not you are independent versus asking for help - it's about doing the job, and not making every human contact a point of vulnerability or some major examination of your own worth.
Do, do see a counsellor to explore the much better ways that exist for you to cope with these unhelpful habits of thought and automatic assumptions about other people, which are so unnecessarily limiting your access to peaceful contracts and even simple happiness. It does not need to be this way
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