Posted by: Dudu | 2009-02-20

I am every ones free therapist

Hi Doc

How do I change this in a good way? I finally relaise I am all my family and some friends free shrink. Meaning they will talk about their problems for hours, I will listen ( try to with out judgement and if needed give advice that can help, but mostly I believe that talking and listenting is importent to help reliese anxiety to think clearly about a matter, so I listen.

But if I say something before finishing one sentence they will rudly personally try to insult. Like I will listen to hours, say"  something at work really mad me mad.. And I will be interupted being told I have to go see a therapist to sort myself out, etc. And usually they will insult me about the exact thing they have been complaining about. They leave feel better and I feel worse for hours.

My question: Is it not normal for people to listen to each other? Now that I realise this I tell them what they did. Should I stop listening when people start complaining about somehting neg and just say well go fix it? How do I handle this right with out having to listen for hours?

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Maybe tell them you've just realized how much harm could come from giving amateur advice, so you're saving up to train as a counsllor, and in the meantime, you've shut up your consulting rooms. If they're so unappreicative and rude, even listening to them wouldn't be worth doing.

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