Our expert says:
Maybe you should read up on the concept of Tough Love. A sense of entitlement may be more of a handicap than the illness or physical disability itself. It can be exactly your "trying to do everything for" your son that encourages this. If you do everything, the only thing left for him to do is to be disagreeable and dissatisfied.
He's 21 - why can't he contribute to putting himself through college ? He DOES earn, but choses to waste that money. If he tries the diabetic blackmail again, have him taken to a government hospital only ( not a private one ) so the experience is less rewarding.
And inform the doctors there that he DELIBERATELY manipulates such episodes so as to manipulate others,and that you are no longer responsible for paying for his care.
The difference in your spending on your makeup etc is that it is YOUR money that you are spending, and you don't owe anything to anyone else, and you don't rely on him to cover all your basic expenses. Unlike him.
Don't care if he manipulatively labels you as cruel. And if anyone else in the family thinks so - let him live with them, and see what opinion they then form.
See a personal counsellor or psychologisty to help you to become more assertive and self-prorective. It won't be weaknes if you become unwell for a short period - but if so, don't allow anyone to give you quack Sleep Therapy ( which is unacceptable according to any proper professional standards, and useless and risky ) but get a proper diagnosis and proper therapy if you need it.
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