Our expert says:
You do indeed sound over-controlling. And there's a matter of HOW you give advice. It's one thing to say "NO, those are awful!" and another to say : "Do you like those ? I always think they're more for little boys ; and I don't think you'd look good in it ". And even better, to say : "You know, I think you look MUCH better in those others".
From your own description, you seem to interfere with matters that are none of your business and which really don't matter, and in a manner that is surely very discouraging and disrespectful.
It doesn't actually make sense when you say you love HIM, when you don't seem to even like anything about him, and to want to change him in so many ways.
How can you see it as disrespectful to the relationship for him to ever disagree with you, when it sounds as though you disagree with him loudly and about everything ? Is this supposed to be a relationship betweeen two adults, or between a mistress and her slave ?
He does, though, sound like an over-obedient wimp. Maybe some couples counselling might help you both to be more adult and truly accepting of each other ?
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