Our expert says:
Sounds like an awful storm about nothing, doesn't it ? It's fine for you to want him to exercise more, for the sake of his own health - but unless and until HE wants to do that, you won't persuade him to do so. And maybe he feels more tired, or has other priorities or plans.
When they draw up solemn lists of major Human Rights, I'm not sure that the Right Not to Have to Go to Gym Unaccompanied comes very high up on those lists. His refusing to go with you may have been disappointing, but may not actually count as a major abuse of human rights.
Then you felt frustrated and angry - and decided to make him feel angry, too ? And became abusive.
I have said before I do NOT believe in or recommend "Anger Management COurses" - they're rarely run by people with broad genuine expertise, they're usually over-priced, and deal with the problem at a rather trivial and generalized level. A proper therapist could deal with "those old thoughts" that trouble you, in a way that no "course" could ever do. It counds as though there are quite a number of old resentments and hurts seething around down there, needing to be dealt with, adn the Gym incident was just a spark that lit a fire that was waiting to be lit.
OK, you've identified a problem which needs proper help to solve it - that's an advance. Continuing to bear a grudge against him for the sin of avoiding simultaneous gymming, isn't good for either of you. And feeling excessive guilt and glomy thoughts doesn't help either.
Look positively for the right expert help to enable you to get this right. I am sure it's possible and need not take a long time.
Some of the readers raise an old point of mine. I am not opposed to Woman Abuse ( as it's usually described, as though it were the sole evil ) - I am opposed to People Abuse - men, women, children, and indeed even dogs and cats. Insects I feel less strongly about.
If you have a genuin anger control problem, FAR better to see a therapist of the CBT foprm, for proper personalized help, to identify the causes and triggers of your anger, as well as to learn better ways of diffusing or controlling it.
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