Our expert says:
So sorry to hear about this, Nicki. Obviously this is a very serious situation and must be taken very seriously indeed. The risk of suicide is high under such circumstances, and indeed more so when a parent has committed suicide. Keep talking with him and make it clear both that you love him and that his suicide, far from solving anything, would devastate you and the children, and that however hopeless things may appear to him, this situation CAN be sorted out. He needs urgent help, from a medical school dept of psychiatry or major state hospital if not a private shrink. If you call Lifeline, they may be able to advise you in more detail about how to talk with him about this. If you have a family doctor, call him/her and ask for direct advice ( as they know your husband ) and help to reach him. Maybe he'd accept seing a GP in the first place. He needs to be gently helped to understand that it is not his fault he has become so depressed, but that this is an illness which can be suiccessfully treated, and that while depressed, it's like wearing the psychological equivalent of dark glasses, uch that he will selectively see only the gloomiest aspect of everything, and not notice any more positive aspects of the situation or available solutions
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