Our expert says:
Firstly, there's a difference between Feeling emotions, recognizing one's emotional felings, and Expressing them.
Some of us learn in chilly and emotionally unexpressive families, not to express one's emotions and to tend to ignore them when they arise. And some of us, after a very emotionally shockign experience earlier in life, such as a parent's suicide, can add to this effect if one shuts off the emotions that arise for fear of being unable to cope with them, like a fuse blowing, and protects oneself from stronger emotions. One may avoid allowing oneself to feel strong emotions in order to try to protect oneself from hurt, but it sadly also protects us from the heights of love and other good emotions. Psychotherapy can help someone recapture the ability to feel good felings, without becoming needlessly vulnerable.
Your hysband DOEs have good feelings --- he cared enough about the litle boy to watch over him for a time ; he doesn't want bad things to happen to his family. But these feelings are apparently muted to an extent that may not serve him well, which is where I would suggest he consider therapy to explore whether this might be worth his while.
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