Our expert says:
Discrepancies in desire and the consequent impact of this on the relationship are often difficult to manage. It is possible that high stress levels can reduce his libido, as can other factors, so don't necessarily disbelieve him. Ultimately this is causing you distress/concern and he needs to understand how important this is for you. As such, whilst he might not be able to meet your needs exactly, he might be able to go some way to do this (a compromise is not uncommon in such situations - and this may include him having to make the effort to get more sleep or initiate intimacy earlier in an evening etc).
The fact that you have never experiences orgasm with your husband also sounds as though little time and effort is put into your lovemaking. The fact that you qualified your statement about orgasm as being 'never with him' as meaning that you have in other circumstances - masturbation or with another lover in the past? If you know your sexual response through this, then you may need to show him what you like/how to give you pleasure - and make sure that there is enough time for him to do this (i.e. not last thing at night). IF he is reluctant, then again you have to let him know how this makes you feel. If you would like some support with these issues, a sex therapist might be able to assist. If you would like help finding one, call the SASHA helpline and leave a message; our administrator will call you back 0860 100 262.
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