Our expert says:
If you look back across previous posting in this forum this year, you'll find this is a surprisingly common type of complaint.
What you describe the uncle as doing is simply abusive and exploitative. But it sounds as though, most unfortunately, your husband has been trained by this awful older man, to be subservient and obedient to him, an d doesn't recognize how peculiar and unfaur this is. Maybe he feels he has to grovel like this or people won't like him or pay attention to him without realizing that it isn't necessary and doesnt work, and that they'd respect him more if he learned to respect himself.
If he won't let himself recognize that this is a major problem, it cant and wont be changed. If he can recognize it as a problem, and wants to change, then a good psychologist, especially using the CBT counselling method, could indeed help him to change : to respect himself and you, to be more assertive and independent.
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