Our expert says:
It made sense to assist your mom, but your home is supposed to be your hom,e not a permanent haven for feckless people --- your sister had no need to become pregnant before she and her partner could afford to look after themselves. You need as a couple to sit down with them and speak pleasantly but very firmly --- this situation cannot continue in thie way. They MUST help in the house and contribute towards the expenses, and, especially the sister and her bf, must make plans to become self-suficient as soon as possible. They MUST do the cleaning and other chores, they cannot be privileged guests forever, and have no right to be lazy and expect you to pay for them and work as an unpaid servant of theirs. And they should do the cooking to whatever extent suits you. If not, stop cooking for them or providing food for them. They may be grown ups but they are behaving like spolt brats.
And don't allow them to make you feel guilty. You owe your sister and her bf nothing ; they chose to get pregnant, and have done nothing to help themselves except to use you like a group of parasites. And your mom should not expect you to support her and slave for her either. She has slightly more right to hope for some help from you, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't work in the house and make herself useful. Give the sister's bunch a deadline or maybe 2 months to make another plan and move out, and make it clear that nless they work well in the house, the deadline will be tomorrow. And tell them you will not allow them to make you feel guilty, and that you are surprised they don't feel guilty, as they should, for what they have been doing to you
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