Our expert says:
Invest in trying to heal your marriage and give it a real chance. Its not fair to either of you to give up on a marriage without working properly with a marriage counsellor.
Flirting with this other guy is unfair to all of you, and not a responsible way to sort this out - he is happy to encourage you to cheat on your husband, potentially ; and you seem to be moving in that direction, too.
You say you love your husband and don't want your marriage to end - see a marriage counsellor together and work at it !
Recognize that this other guy is wonderful only in your imahination, because he is now able to be everything you fondly imagine or wish for, without the inevitable experiences of falling short of your wishes which would arise if you were actually together. Its a fantasy. Notice that the other guy did NOT respond supportively when you told him you loved him - doesnt that tell you something very important ?
There['s no secret recipe for "stopping" a love you feel, especially for someone who you may have met previously, but is now principally a fantasy. face reality - if you proceed with this you'll lose a marriage and husband you love, for a guy who might not even bother to turn up.
Cut contact with him, genuinely - remove his numbers and e-mail, SMS and other addresses from ALL your records ; block all calls from those numbers and bin any e0mails.
Depending on how you have been talking online, remove whatever software you've been using and block yourself from accessing that site.
Work on reviving and enjoying the love you and your husband have for each other, which, according to your own words, is important and real ; and stop chasing shadows. And keep busy enough not to have enough spare time to sit around dreaming about what might have been - get back to enjoying what already is
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