Our expert says:
OK, firstly a good reminder that ALL parents should insist on having protective software on their computer, and should not allow uncontrolled private internet access to minors. Kids have a DUTY to be curious and explore, and its neither unnatural or unhealthy for them to try to find out more about sex, especially when adults seem to them to be peculiarly secretive about it.
The best protection of all is to have an on-going, open and honest conversation with your children, age appropriate and evolving as they do, about sex and other such issues.
What the other boy did was probably appropriate to his age, though not so much so for your son, but he shared with your boy something he had discovered and found interesting, as he might share a stamp collection, perhaps. You can't prevent exchanges of information between kids - at school he will probably have heard and still will hear, all sorts of alarming information about sex, some accurate, much exaggerated or inaccurate, from other kids.
You have started dealing with this well, by starting a calm discussion ( and i should be on-going, not one-off ) about sexual matters, so he can feel comfortable in asking you about other things of this sort he might encounter, and by providing proper accurate information.
"Confrontation" is far too fashionable these days, and often hermful. Discuss with your son how to handle it if the other boy suggests something similar in future. There's no good reason to ban them from remaining friends, rather than suggesting this particular topic shouldn't be top of their agenda. I doubt that the other kid is an incipient paedophile - a 15-year-old who befriends a much younger kid is often a lonely loner rather than a predator. You don't mention whether he is an only child, or even more widely different in age from his sibs, which would make this scenario more likely.
And try to help your son develop other friends as well, rather than let this friendship become too exclusive
Yes, do have a calm word with his parents, who may want to monitor his web use too, and may well want to disuss this with him.
And again, they'd probably be the only kids at school banned from computer access, if you chose that route - better allow access with proper monitoring and software controls, so they can discover the useful stuff rather than the sleazy stuff.
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