Our expert says:
Sometimes being a victim can get to be a habit. Sad, isn't it ? And creepy, as you describe it.
Excellen response from Purple. False accusations mave to be strongly discouraged, in part because they so easily lead to Genuine claims being ignored.
I'd build on the idea of finding small things she gets right without complaining, and comment cheerfully about those, praising her for managing this in the face of all difficulties. Encourage that little part of her to grow.
Once in an American Dept where I was a Professor, we had a very bright guy who was similarly grumbling. We named him our "Departmental Creative Problem Finder", and treated every grumble as a positive act, thanking him for pointing out something that might need improving - and would then send him off to explore and report back on possible solutions to the problems he had identified. HE became a very useful member of the team.
Don't borrow any of her negativity - she probably needs all she can manufacture.
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