Home > Experts > Question Search health advice Find an answer Question Posted by: Tansy | 2012/05/09 Q.how quickly do men fall? I''ve got a guy saying ''I''m crazy in love with you'' 21 days into our relationship. I told him this can''t possibly be true and changed topic quickly, it just became awkward, I mean really. Now I am wondering if I was a bit unfair - do you men fall that quickly or am I right this chap is still in the ''new rush stage''? i.e still pure lust? Our ''physical relations'' are beyomd mindblowing, I am wondering if it is not that he is in love with, surely? Another thing is that he is fresh out of a horrible five-year relationship with a woman who just didn''t care about him like he did for her - he very deeply loved her. So maybe he has just been longing to say the words again?your thoughts? I dnt want to keep shooting him down if he is genuine, yet who can genuinely say such words in three weeks. I for one have never heard of such before. 8 Pin It user comments Posted by: Pat | 2012/05/17 In love or infatuation is a chemical reaction in the brain which leads to the butterfly feeling etc. This can be instantaneous. This reaction / attraction makes people come together long enough for real love to develop and grow. So yes, you can be in love within a few minutes or days... in the end it is what emotion, whether chemically induced or after a while from deeper feelings he might actually have for you. The chemical one grows less prenounces as time goes past except if the actual love feeling ensures that it sticks around... Reply to Pat Posted by: Cyclist | 2012/05/10 I think his definition of " being in love" is probably too loose as surely one cannot be so in such a short space of time. I think he thinks he is impressing you by saying so and hoping for some bonking. Simply tell him that you are enjoying the relationship but it is too early to start talking about " love" . The fact that you are a bit of a rebound is probably also making him a bit insecure. Reply to Cyclist Posted by: Woman | 2012/05/09 Sorry, I meant ''it took years to get over him and months to realise that he was a rebound'' Reply to Woman Posted by: Woman | 2012/05/09 My rebound (it was a weird situation) also told me he loved me after a couple of days. The s*x was really intense, but I always had the feeling that I was fighting with my ex and not with him, and for him, i think if you ask him today, he''ll say the same thing. One of the things that I do regret, is that I didn''t realise it at the time, because rebounds hurt like hell and always leave an aftertaste. It took years to realise that he was a rebound, in fact I only figured it out months after it broke up very painfully.Now my husband told me years ago that he loved me- about 2 hours after we met. Today he tells me he never really stopped loving me on some levels, boyfriend/ friend and now husband. If I had trusted my love for him, and his love for me, we might have been happily married today in one reality.I''m think you should thank him for sharing his feelings for you. Be honest and tell him that his words freaked you out a little, you think it''s too soon, but you are not averse to the whole relationship, you just need more time to process your emotions. Tell him that if he has the patience to allow your love to grow, the reward will be worth the wait.This is as I see it anyway. Reply to Woman Posted by: Brendan | 2012/05/09 This is a typical example of how someone can devalue themselves by appearing too eager too soon. You are probably NOT acting as desperate (that word again Woman) which makes his attraction for you even stronger. He wants what he can''t have! Lol! Or that he is scared to lose! But I think you all get the point now!And I bet he lost the other chick by doing the same thing. If he held his cards to his chest and not blurted out his love for you, at least not so soon, you would have found him mysterious and attractive. Now the doubt has set in. And if he persists on worshipping the ground you walk on, that is where he is going to stay! Reply to Brendan Posted by: Colin | 2012/05/09 I asked my wife to marry me after 10days.I do believe in spontaneous lovebut the fact that he is just out of a relationship means he could be rebounding time will tell Reply to Colin Posted by: jo | 2012/05/09 you had sex yet? I see in most cases, people tend to say things like that if they are wanting nookie. Reply to jo Posted by: Pole | 2012/05/09 You the classic rebound chick Tansy Reply to Pole Want to comment? Your name (optional) Your comment To prevent spam please solve this simple math problem: × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. 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