Our expert says:
If you've been together for years, and the whole family is expecting it - does there really HAVE to be a problem about telling them ?
If you think he might change his mind, what if you took him with you, and told them he had proposed, in front of them ? Harder for him to back out of without getting embarrassed.
After all this time, do you understand WHY he might be hesitant about this ?
Its a very relevant issue to consider why he'd hesitate to be married to you - not much would change. OK, many women have massive dreams about and decades of planning their WEDDING, which rarely as a day, means as much to men. As maria says, your message sounds more about wedding-lust than marriage as such.
Why would his mother not like you ? Is it the "actually, no living woman out there is good enough for my boy" variety ?
Couldn't he mediate and help the pair of you to talk ? Maybe if it seems to her that YOU have insisted on not talking to her for 5 years, she'd hardly find that endearing.
If you need to know what each family might say, and you don't know already, have you tried asking them ?
Couples counselling might help you both to clarify what's going on, and what isn't.
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