Our expert says:
Maybe you need a calm, sit-down chat with him about this. Maybe start by emphasizing how much you appreciate how well he relates to the older child. Then gently raise the point that you're worried about his relationship with the younger child. You appreciate that there were difficulties between you at the time, and presumably he did not want there to be another pregnancy at that time ( but he DID participate in the pregnancy - you can't do that all on your own ). Remind him that it is not the child's fault that there were difficulties at the time of her conception. Ask him to be big about this for the sake of his child. Make it clear that if he has any doubts at all about paternity, you are prepared to have the necessary tests done.
Maybe he feels you deceived him in some way, perhaps became pregnant deliberately to "trap' him into the relationship. But you need to help him realize this is his child, and innocent of any wrong-doin, and only keen to love him and to be loved by him.
OK, a maintenance COurt might require him to pay appropriate maintenance for both children, but you can't force anyone to love the child. If they spend time together, maybe at your place with both children there, he might get to know her better.
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