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You can't do that. If a relationship was truly an emotional relationship and lasted 15 months, one can only rarely break up without feeling hurt. But that doesn't mean that, if there are good reasons for doing so, one should not break up.
many of us enjoy being alone, so a fear of being lonely is not universal or inevitable.
If you are really allowing it to shape your life, maybe you should consider seeing a counsellor to rid yourself of this fear. It would be helpful, too, because tyhere is otherwise a risk that you could lock yourself into unsuitable and unsatisfying relationships suimply in order to avoid being alone. Learn to enjoy aloneness ( which isn;t the same as loneliness ) and o be less needy, so you can be in a stronger position from which to form better relationships.
But I don't understand IF you "truly love him", why is it that you don't want him any more, and don't want him in your life ? That's contradictory.
Again, seeing a counsellor could really help you to sort out your anxieties and become stronger and healthier.
It is never true that you could never find someone like him there are many someones in this world. You seem to be awfulizing a bit - assuming that the discomfort and sadness of missin soomeone whowas a friend will be AWFUL and eternal, rather than something one can cope with and get over.
Its not usually easy, but its never impossible, and often, with time, easier than you thought.
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