Our expert says:
Your grandmother may no merely be old, but perhaps demented or paranoid and suspicious and accusatory for other reasons, which might respond to medication and skilled nursing.
If your aunt took her out os a retirement village you had arranged and perhaps paid for, its now her responsibility to deal with the consequences, or arrrange to return her there - to dump her back on you would be grosly unjust.
If it is YOUR home which YOU pay for, your mother has no business inviting let alone trying to arrange for ANYONE else to come and live there. Do not let your mother's boundary violations drive you to cuting yourself or otherwise suffering. If she wants to look afgter her mom, that's great - but she must do it in her own place which she pays for,
If granny can afford R 5000 a month, maybe that could be used to hire a flat for her and your mom and dad to care for each other ?
Maybe your counsellor / shrink can help you plan how to firmly tell them that you have the absolute right and duty to live your own life, as you please, and that they need to support that and not criticise it or try to control it.
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