Our expert says:
Sounds mighty like he is using you, even in his "business". Tell him calmly that from now on you will not rescue him from ANY debts whatever, and will concentrate on getting and keeping yourself out of debt. No "pastime" costs so much of other people's money.
Nobody makes money on gambling, except for casinos and suchlike, who grow rich on the way that men like your husband share the delusion that they will win. The odds are all carefully calculated. Occasional "wins" are there just to keep him motivated ; over-all, he will never win.
And devoting oneself to the delusion that he will become wealthy by gambling is also a sign of someone who wants non-existent magic, and is simply not prepared to actually work for money.
Stop utterly and totally, funding his gambling - what good does that do for anyone ?
It would be impossible for you to fix your ( and his ) problems together, unless he completely and sincerely acknowledges that there are serious problems, especially with his behaviour, and shows himself prepared over an extended period to work hard with a counsellor / therapist to change his selfish and foolish behaviour.
Maybe you need to see a personal counsellor for some sessions, to clarify what would be best for you and the child - it doesn't sound as though he wil have any true interest in those important issues
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