Our expert says:
I must apologise as I will have to answer in English - I understand your question but simply am able to respond well in Afrikaans.
There are a number of reasons why a man might experience pain - there is too much friction/not enough lubrication, the foreskin is too tight and/or pain on the part when the foreskin attaches to the head of the penis, or he has a curvature of the penis which hurts during penitration.
Since you are using KY jelly, it is not likely to be the first option. However, a quick tip: try a different lubricant as KY tends to only be slippy for a very short time and as it dries up the friction returns. Try a lubricant that is designed more for sex like Durex Play, or Astroglide or Sylk - you can get these from pharmacies).
It sounds as though he is experiencing pain when his foreskin is pulled back? Try putting lubricant on his penis when it is erect and gently with your/his hand try to pull the skin down towards the base of the penis so that the foreskin pulls backwards exposing the head of his penis. See if this is the pain he experiences during sex. Once you know if is this pain or not, then you have more information to either come back to this forum or to go to a urologist to have this checked out.
Whatever you do, don't feel dumb - none of us are taught how to be sexual and feel like we should just somehow know how to do it - this is not necessarily the case! PLease ask as much as you like to assist you and husband experience pleasure together.
Claire - SASHA
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