Our expert says:
I see Simone has again been quick with an informative response...who are you, Simone?
Herpes is caused by a virus that can be transmitted by skin on skin contact with someone with symptoms (watery blisters) or even through transmission of fluids (e.g. saliva, fluid exchange during sex) when the person has no obvious signs of the blisters. To be absolutely certain of not being infected the advice would be to prevent all fluid exchange - sexually and through kissing, and prevent exposure to sores when they are present as the fluid inside carries the virus. Unfortunately this virus remains dormant in a person indefinitely. Depending on the type of herpes he has, type 1 (mostly, but not exclusively oral) or type 2 (mostly, but no exclusively genital) may inform the behviour you are willing to participate in and the risks you are willing to take. If it is genital herpes, you would be safe to kiss his mouth, but not perform unprotected oral sex. If it is oral herpes, then he shouldn't perform unprotected oral sex on you. You may, however, wish to take the risk of cold sores/fever blisters and still kiss his mouth when he is unsymptomatic (blister free)...
Your boyfriend has been very responsible for his honesty - this should be commended. This virus should not prevent intimacy, but you may need to adapt your usual intimate behaviour to protect yourself.
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