Our expert says:
This is a terrible situation for you, in fact, for any parent. You are probably overwhelmed, so you will have to start with first things first.
Talk to other people who are in the same boat and join a support group such as Narconon. You don't say where you live, but you can Google them to find a meeting near you.
It is vital that you speak to people in the same situation; please don't do this on your own.
It looks like your son does not want to be helped. There are various options, one being that he is admitted through the courts to a state institution, where you have him sectioned.
He will have to stay there until THEY decide that he is better.
The other option is some tough love. Kick him out of home. He's sponging off you and you are enabling him by feeding him and giving him a roof over his head.
Once he finds himself on the streets he might change his mind. Do not feed and clothe him any more, enough is enough.
His depression can only be addressed once he is clean and it is probably linked to his usage of drugs.
You mention that he smokes dagga, well, that is one of the biggest depressants that you can find.
Don't listen to his nonsense any more; addicts are highly manipulative people and know how to suck you dry of sympathy, money and energy. And they wallow in self induced self pity.
Let it STOP today. He must go to a state rehab or he must leave home. TODAY. No more Ms Nice, please, you have been taken for a silly fool for long enough now.
If you would like to discuss this for more guidance, please feel free to email us. It all might seem overwhelming and what I suggest above might seem harsh.
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We will help and advise where we can. Best of luck.
To wrap up. Join a support group, stop feeling sorry for him, admit him to a rehab or kick him out, and feel free to email us for further assistance.
Remember, there is always hope.
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