Posted by: Snoopy | 2009-07-17

help please

fear, anger, paranoia, and severe boyfriend problems. i hate his drinking. im over possessive. im jealous. i dont trust him. i dont want to be too controlling but at the same time i feel as though i am being emotionally abused???? very confused. just cant do it anymore. i dont have a life. i dont have friends. i just sit at home waiting for him....

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Hi there,

what all of this amounts to is that you are unhappy. That might sound like stating the obvious - but you now have to narrow this down so that you can begin taking control of your life rather than trying to control the things around you. If your boyfriend has a drink problem he is the only one who can take responsibility for that. If he is not willing to, yo have to decide whether you are prepared to sit around and wait for him when you could be building your own life.

You have to believe enough in yourself to make the changes that will leadto you feeling happier. If you feel like you are being emotionally abused there is a very good chance that you are.

Is your boyfriend prepared to listen, or are your feelings disregarded? If so, it is seriously time to think about hat your needs are, and however scary it might be at first to break ot of this very negative cycle you are currently locked into.

Don't sit there feeling controlled - take the action necessary to get what you deserve.

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Posted by: Chris | 2009-07-21

Don' t waste your time with someone who makes you worry. Maybe you should make a plan and go out sometime, or perhaps talk to someone to be a bit more social, perhaps by e-mail or whatever means, but the point is you need to communicate with the public. This will boost your confidence and help you socially. Guys have a way of being selfish and therefor don' t think about what they could be putting you through with regards to stressing you out.
I was once like that, and I know it' s horrible. Live your life how you want to and in a way that makes you happy.
Take care of yourself Snoop....

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