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Posted by: Dee | 2010-08-10

Help for depressed husband

Dear Dr,

I am convinced my husband is depressed. His mom died suddenly a year back and at the same time he was being shot at during a failed highjack attempt, and being promoted. Since his mom passed, he''s asked for a divorce, he rarely eats, started drinking MUCH more than the usual drink with braai''s over weekends, smokes all the time and works himself to the bone. Eventhough he''s finalising divorce papers I really do worry myself sick about his emotional wellbeing. I am so scared to leave our little girl alone with him, as he''s so short tempered these days, and loses himself in a split second. He says the most horrible things to me, and in the morning remembers nothing of it. I don''t think he''s using drugs, but at the moment I''m not really sure about anything anymore. I really want him to just go and see somebody, anybody, to just asess him and see if he''s indeed depressed and help him before he does something stupid. But I don''t know where to start or how to convince him seeing that he hates me. Do I beg him to go to a GP or a psychiatrist? Should I rather tie him up and drop him at the hospital... I really am desperate to get him some help. I''m sure that he really does need it. I just don''t know how. Any advice?

Thanks so much,
Dee

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The eperiences you descibe are of course far above the level of usual life trauma and stress most people could handle without problems. And while drink is a common form of self-medication, it actually worsens depression, as alcohol is a depressing drug. He would do best to see a psychiatrist for a proper assessment, and a discussion of treatment options based on that ; at the least a good and skilled GP, as a start.
If there is a family doc who knows you both, you could discuss possible tactics, including taking note of the fact that until a divorce goes through, you as next of kin may have some authority in helping to get him assessed and even treated, which perhaps nopbody would have after a divorce.

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2010-08-10

The eperiences you descibe are of course far above the level of usual life trauma and stress most people could handle without problems. And while drink is a common form of self-medication, it actually worsens depression, as alcohol is a depressing drug. He would do best to see a psychiatrist for a proper assessment, and a discussion of treatment options based on that ; at the least a good and skilled GP, as a start.
If there is a family doc who knows you both, you could discuss possible tactics, including taking note of the fact that until a divorce goes through, you as next of kin may have some authority in helping to get him assessed and even treated, which perhaps nopbody would have after a divorce.

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