Our expert says:
I always find it a bit curious when people decide they should marry at 30 ( or whatever age ) ather than at a ertain poiont in a relationship, or when they are mature enough, or according to their financial circumstances. However
When he accuses you of being like your ma, it's probably because he has noticed it upsets you to say so, rather than bcause he believes it is so.
However, when you are describing frankly abusive behaviour and threats, and - did I understand you right, he blames YOU because of something HIS father id ? - I wonder why you continue to consider remaining engaged to him or think of marrying him. None of these things are likely to improve after marriage, especially as he apparently refuses to take part in couples counselling.
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