Posted by: Just Me | 2011-01-31


Hi, doc

i met this guy about 8 months ago and have been dating for six months, and i really love him. we have been intimate twice and realised he struggle with a weak erection. I would like to know if there is a way first i can do spice up our sexual relationship safely, he is hiv+ . Secondly he drinks and smoke, is there a way i can talk him into cutting down on the smoking and drinking. I love him and want to try and make this relationship work but he just changes the subject when trying to discuss the issue.

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Dear Just Me,

Your commitment to and desire for working at this relationship is commendable. I would suggest you follow your intuition and intention at growing this relationship rather than attempting a "recipe" approach.

As for his weak erections, the fact of his HIV status, his smoking and drinking which also points to a generally unhealthy lifestyle would strongly suggest that physical and medical consequences of his lifestyle could be causing his weak erections.

The intent to spice up your sex life is a positive approach to your sexual relationship as a general rule, yet the concern is that should you attempt to spice things up now, he may then experience a stronger need to "perform" which could add to his possibly already existing performance anxiety. If the weak erections are as a result of physical and medical causes he will still experience the erection problem ontop of the performance anxiety.

I would strongly recommend that he see a physician for a thorough medical and physical assessment.

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Posted by: Anon | 2011-02-01

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Posted by: anon | 2011-02-01

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