Our expert says:
Dear Just Me,
Your commitment to and desire for working at this relationship is commendable. I would suggest you follow your intuition and intention at growing this relationship rather than attempting a "recipe" approach.
As for his weak erections, the fact of his HIV status, his smoking and drinking which also points to a generally unhealthy lifestyle would strongly suggest that physical and medical consequences of his lifestyle could be causing his weak erections.
The intent to spice up your sex life is a positive approach to your sexual relationship as a general rule, yet the concern is that should you attempt to spice things up now, he may then experience a stronger need to "perform" which could add to his possibly already existing performance anxiety. If the weak erections are as a result of physical and medical causes he will still experience the erection problem ontop of the performance anxiety.
I would strongly recommend that he see a physician for a thorough medical and physical assessment.
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