Our expert says:
Problems like this are far beyond the limited ( if any ) proper training of any pastoral counsellor I've met in SA. And its an unfortunately common effect of rape opr abuse, that the victim may feel inappropriately guilty about it. HE did it, not you.
Its your privilege to decide who else you wil, or wont tell about such a bad event in your life - but you must tell your therapist, or you're handicapping him and making it likely the therapy won't be very helpful. Its like asking a librarian to help you find a book, but refusing to give the name or subject of the book.
Therapy would be a good idea, with a properly trained psychologist /psychotherapist, and your medical aid should agree to pay ( and your GP should help, if asked, to persuadwe them to do so ). I agree its not a good idea for your new friend to join in such therapy.
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