Our expert says:
Battering a spouse is always totally unacceptable. And there are NO excuses for doing it, or for accepting it. Of course he can live without battering you or anyone else, but he doesn't choose to do so. Battering is never compulsory or unavoidable.
Sadly, the companions of such violent and cruel men, too often accept the blame nonsensically piled on them. and continue to maccept the abuse - which encourages the abuser to feel entitled to do it.
URGENTLY, contact one or more help groups like POWA that exist to help advise and support battered women and other battered people. They can help plan a safe way for you to leave, with the child, and to remain safe while obtaining legal court orders forbidding him from threatening you or coming near you again.
Of course, too, it is bad for a child to grow up knowing that Dad abuses and batters Mom, and to learn implicitly that this is how things are supposed to be. That may make it unfortunately easier for the child to grow into either a batterer, or someone who accepts abuse
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