Our expert says:
Sounds like the father is loving, but doesn't recognize that allowing kids o do as they please is actuall abusive and bad for kids, who need structure and organization so they can grow up well. Leaving them to be dirty is never excusable.
And for the kid to arrive with the fishy story about a Cape Town School, asking for banking details etc ( which a real school would not request ) and not properly typed on official paper, is not credible, and some sort of scam is likely.
Try to encourage him to join you in couples counselling to sort out all these things, before agreeing to go on with the wedding.
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