Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
It sounds like there is need for some boundaries. Your boyfriend has got good intentions when he doesn't want to create more problems but it seems that what creates the problems is the lack of boundaries in place. The mom is wrong to use the children the way she does and she would benefit from a co-parenting class. The children best interest must be a priority and to decide to keep the children then to send them back at her wish is not acceptable. Drawing a good parenting plan may be the solution to your situation. The maintenance should be determined just as where and when the children are at their mother. As far as the bullying is concerned the best is to keep ignoring it and keep modeling the best behaviour possible for the children's sake.
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