Our expert says:
Why would you HAVE to give half to your mother ? Maybe it has been your custom, and hers, to usually give her money - but you should only give what you can afford, and she should herself work, or seek a welfare grant, or otherwise support herself rather than relying entirely on herself. Your parents should NOT put you "badly in debt". You then waste more money in interest, paying off the debt, than either of you use.
Now you have given her the money - does she always use it wisely ? Does she really need it more than you do ?
They should be getting social welfare grants if they are genuinely unable to work, and checking what charitable aid they could get, rather than just sitting expecting you to go into debt to pay for them. And if they cannot afford to support themselves, of course they should not have continued to have more children they cannot afford - but now they should seek help from child welfare and other sources, to care for the kids. The dept of education surely can deal with the school fees problem if the family genuinely can't aford the fees, and should be able to help with school feeding, too.
If your mother really has serious health problems, she should be able to speak to a social worker and again get some sort of assistance. If your father has health problems but refuses to get treated, then his inability to work is perhaps his own fault.
I suspect that you won't argue him out of his waped idea that you must slave to provide for him - but if he had no money for himself ( and does he spend on alcohol or cigarettes, too ? ) he might find it worthwhile to change his views abour treatment and about work.
YOu cannot sacrifice your life to caring for them, especially if they are not actively working the best they can and if they are ignoring other sources of assistance.
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