Our expert says:
Women often complain of a lower sex drive. Other than in the case of men, women do not always know or are aware that they have a desire for sex – too many life things keep them occupied and need to be wound down to realize they are in the mood. As time and demands increase and our bodies change (less lubrication) we tend to have less of a conscious desire and the fact that one might need external lubrication is often frustrating and might result in sex avoidance. It might be worth exploring more foreplay – often that is when the senses are awakened and the realization that you might be in the mood. It might be worth reading up a bit more about the sexual disparity between men and women – www.sexualhealth.co.za. Understanding how your bodies react and respond differently might be a good exercise for the two of you.
Furthermore you could explore “sensate focus” techniques – read more under the heading sexual assignments on the website www.sexualhealth.co.za. These techniques are designed to create the space in a comfortable manner to bond with your partner without it always having to go over into sex. It might furthermore be worth for the two of you to consider seeking professional guidance from a psychologist that specializes in sexual concerns and couple counseling.
You are also welcome to contact our helpline – 0860100262 where you could be assisted to get in touch with a therapist as close a possible to you.
Furthermore you are welcome to visit the following website for any more sexual health information and assignments that could be helpful: www.sexualhealth.co.za
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