Our expert says:
Grief is never ever easy to work through. Sadly, some people like the "pull yourself together" idiot you quote, are so dim that they manage to be awfully brave about other people's loss and grief, and they should be ignored, or sharply told to go and get counselling themselves, if they persist in being so crudely incapable of understanding. And anyone who agrees with her needs also to think about their motivations, selfish and/or ignorant. Clearly, these are people who have never had any significant loss in their lives. Or maybe they have never been sufficiently attached to anyone else, to feel real loss.
Grief is necessary work. It need not push you into depression ; sadness is somewhat different though it can feel similar.
And this loss is so very recent that it would be very odd indeed if you were "better" by now.
You're right There is no prescribed time-frame. Grief's duration is "enough", and you know when that arives.
My sympathies are with you ; continue to grieve and heal as you know how to do
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