Our expert says:
If he is taking your clothes, or any opther of your possessions, and selling them, that is THEFT, and he should be reported to the police and arrested and charged. He needs to learn that his choices have consequences, instead of feeling sorry for himself because you lead an unhappy life when he was younger. His choices are not your fault, and he will never stay clean of drugs while he feels he can blame it all on you. And presumably the stuff he's selling is to get money for drugs. If his gf is so good, what does she think about this ? And if he thinks you are so awful, why does he choose to stay with you and at your expense ?
With an attitude such as he is showing towards you, maybe that's why nobody wants to give him a job ? It is HIS duty to get himself a job - that's not your task nor is it your fault if he fails to get one.
You were NOT a bad parent, and did the best you could manage.
That he starts crying when you challenge him is possibly a very small sign of hope, depending on whether he is just feeling sorry for himself, or actually genuinely feeling remorse. He should be encouraged to see a counsellor ( there are drug counsellors available through various problems, and he can find them if he tries ) and get help to start taking personal responsibility for his choices in life. Tell him you DO have feelings for him, as you obviously do, but that you can't tolerate theft of your belongings, and that so long as he refuses to take personal responsibility for the choices he has made and continues to make, he will not be able to get his life together. Many people have horrible parents who physically and sexually abuse them, without necessarily becoming drug addicts or thieves.
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