Our expert says:
It's sad simply when a spouse fails to understand what their partner means when he or she says they are Depressed. Post-Natal Depression is significant, and quite common ; and after a gang-rape you are entitled to depression and or many other varieties of distress. I believe that whenever a doctor or psychologist diagnoses Depression, they ought to ask to meet or speak to the spouse of the patient and explain what this means.
It should never be a mistake to tell one's spouse that one is depressed, let alone that one has been raped or otherwise assaulted, and sympathy and an earnest attempt to understand, is the least one can expect from them. It's hard to believe that you went through the awful experience of gang-rape without telling him, indeed, without him being aware that something awful had happened to you. At the time you needed medical care, blood testing, and urgent and defini8tive counselling. You don't mention whether you have received or do now receive, any proper expert treatment for the depression or the aftermath of the rape. It is essential, and you deserve it.
I suggest that now you arrange to see a good local shrink for a proper assessment, and treatment of your depression ( and possibly for other post-traumatic problems ), potentially by medication and CBT-style counselling. Once that is taken care of, one topic to discuss with your therapist / counsellor would be how to handle your husband's remarkably unsympathetic responses to your problems.
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