Our expert says:
if she is determined to buy you stuff, plan a pleasant sit-down coffee morning with her, to say how much you appreciate all her caring, and you'd like to help her understand YOUR taste, the styles and things you like. Maybe mention a couple of things you DO need, and clarify the many things she might think of, but which you DON'T need.
Explain that you're an independent sort of person, an really want to do things your own way, so that you can become more clearly independent -like she is. ( that's a complimentary way of asking her to do less for you ).
When you have a control freak in the family, give them something harmless to control. That's much easier that fighting her over every single thing she tries to control. In a meeting, she's the sort of person you ask to keep the Minutes, so she'll be more busy writing down what the rest of us say than thinking of things to say, herself.
And ask your fiancee, who presumably has had much longer experience of coping with her !
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